Mary Forsberg Weiland, Scott Weiland‘s ex-wife and the mother to his teenage children, has penned an essay following his untimely death.

Scott Weiland’s Ex-Wife’s Letter

Mary wrote an essay on the former Stone Temple Pilot frontman’s death with the help of their children together – Noah, 15, and Lucy, 13 – for Rolling Stone. In the poignant letter, Mary criticizes the culture that glamorizes the destruction of its rock stars, and mourns the loss of hope her children have suffered for their father’s recovery.

“December 3rd, 2015 is not the day Scott Weiland died. It is the official day the public will use to mourn him, and it was the last day he could be propped up in front of a microphone for the financial benefit or enjoyment of others,” Mary wrote.

“The outpouring of condolences and prayers offered to our children, Noah and Lucy, has been overwhelming, appreciated and even comforting. But the truth is, like so many other kids, they lost their father years ago,” she added. “What they truly lost on December 3rd was hope.”

Mary went on to detail Weiland’s role in Noah and Lucy’s lives, and how she had tried to facilitate some semblance of a relationship between the rocker and his kids.

“Even after Scott and I split up, I spent countless hours trying to calm his paranoid fits, pushing him into the shower and filling him with coffee, just so that I could drop him into the audience at Noah’s talent show, or Lucy’s musical,” Mary explained. “Those short encounters were my attempts at giving the kids a feeling of normalcy with their dad. But anything longer would often turn into something scary and uncomfortable for them.”

Mary acknowledged her onetime husband’s unquestionable talent as a singer and songwriter, and how his songs will rightfully live on following his death. But she also drove home her point that his death, which followed years of addiction, should not be glorified, but rather an example of how things shouldn’t turn out.

“Our hope for Scott has died, but there is still hope for others,” Mary concluded her letter. “Let’s choose to make this the first time we don’t glorify this tragedy with talk of rock and roll and the demons that, by the way, don’t have to come with it. Skip the depressing T-shirt with 1967-2015 on it – use the money to take a kid to a ballgame or out for ice cream.”

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