‘Big Bang Theory’ Star Melissa Rauch Pens Essay About Pregnancy & Miscarriage
Melissa Rauch, Big Bang Theory co-star, announced her pregnancy on Tuesday alongside an essay about her previous miscarriage.
‘BIG BANG THEORY’ NEWS: MELISSA RAUCH MISCARRIAGE ESSAY
Rauch has struggled with infertility and is now expecting her first child with husband Winston Rauch in the fall. She wrote in Glamour magazine that she was happy but also scared of losing a baby again.
“Here is the only statement regarding my pregnancy that doesn’t make me feel like a complete fraud: ‘Melissa is expecting her first child. She is extremely overjoyed, but if she’s being honest, due to the fact that she had a miscarriage the last time she was pregnant, she’s pretty much terrified at the moment that it will happen again.'”
Rauch, who plays Bernadette on the CBS comedy, explained her need to write about her past miscarriage was to relate to women out there who may also have trouble getting pregnant. “All I could think about was another woman mourning over her loss as I did, worried she would never get pregnant again, and reading about my little bundle on the way,” she said. “It felt a bit disingenuous to not also share the struggle it took for me to get here. Ideally, the more we talk about this issue, the more we can chip away at the unnecessary stigma around it, with the end result being that those of us struggling with loss and infertility will feel less alone,”
Rauch then goes on to discuss her miscarriage in detail, plus the guilt she felt about it and anger that she blamed herself in the first place. “To me, it immediately conjures up an implication that it was the woman’s fault, like she somehow ‘mishandled the carrying of this baby,'” she wrote. “F that so hard, right in its patriarchal nut-sack.”
In addition to sharing her own story, Rauch also wanted to caution others in the way they approach speaking to a woman about her reproduction plans. She flips the dialogue on its head and says, “we’d never inquire of a man: ‘When are ya going to shoot a virile load up in someone and create human life?’
And finally, Rauch offered some advice to her fellow women: “So, to all the women out there who are dealing with fertility issues, have gone through a miscarriage or are going through the pain of it currently, allow me to leave you with this message: You are not alone. And, it is perfectly OK to not be OK right now.”