La La Anthony, the wife of New York Knicks superstar Carmelo Anthony, spoke to Uinterview exclusively about her new book, The Love Playbook: Rules for Love, Sex, And Happiness, in which she comes out swinging against the ‘freebie’ or a free cheat day. “I think that’s opening the flood gates up for a lot of problems,” La La told Uinterview. “I don’t believe that anyone should have a free cheat day in any relationship, so I heard a lot of people saying they thought, you know, that was the way to keep your man happy and keep him from cheating, allow him a free day. I don’t agree with that at all and I talk about that extensively in the book.”

La La, whose first name is Alani, first rose to fame when MTV hired her away from a Los Angeles radio station to co-host Direct Effect and Total Request Live. She and Carmelo became engaged on Christmas Day 2004 and married on July 10, 2010. The couple has one son, Kiyan, who was born on March 7, 2007.

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Q: Why do you say women hold the power in the relationship? - Uinterview

Well, women do hold all the power just we gotta know how to use that power to our advantage and how to make you guys stay in line and do the right thing. That's why they say, 'Happy wife, happy life' because women hold the power. It'€™s all about knowing how to use that power. We talk about that in the book.

Q: What are some of the relationship rules in your book? - Uinterview

Well the first rule is really self-love and loving yourself first because if you do that you'€™ll attract the right kind of energy. A lot of times women go into relationships looking for men to fill voids that they need to work on themselves. So in my book, with all these fun stories and tips and tidbits, we do just really talk about self-love and loving yourself first because that is the primary basis for any healthy relationship.

Q: What does it mean to have a "€˜game plan"€™ in a relationship? - Uinterview

Just know what you'€™re doing. Is it just a fling? Is just something for now? Is this a person you see yourself being with long term? Know what it is so you can strategize and have a game plan on how you want the relationship to go because every relationship is different. We'€™re not meant to be with everyone for the rest of our life.

Q: Why are you against prenuptial agreements? - Uinterview

You know, I just don’t want to look at marriage as a business agreement. Now, in some situations I do understand where you may have to do that so, I’m kind of on the fence one that. But you don’t want to go into a marriage just as a business relationship. You want to go into a marriage because it’s true love and this is the person you see yourself spending the rest of your life with. I’m on the fence about it. It could go either way. But definitely you still want to make sure, at the core of it all, you’re going into the marriage for the right reasons.

Q: What do you mean when you warn women not to 'fake it'€™? - Uinterview

Women should be leery of faking it. What I meant by that is that when you come into the relationship you want to be this perfect woman: 'I cook. I clean. I do this. I do that.' And if that's not really who you are, then you will be exposed. I don'€™t cook. I never pretended that I could cook; I never came into my marriage or relationship as a cook and 10 years later I’m still not a cook. So I never faked it I am what I am and fortunately my husband fell in love with me for that, so by not faking it I was true and authentic, and he fell in love with that.

Q: Do you think couple's should grant 'freebies' in their relationships? - Uinterview

Well, I don'€™t agree with a freebie. I think that'€™s opening the flood gates up for a lot of problems. I don'€™t believe that anyone should have a free cheat day in any relationship, so I heard a lot of people saying they thought, you know, that was the way to keep your man happy and keep him from cheating, allow him a free day. I don't agree with that at all and I talk about that extensively in the book. My friends aren't into that, but I know some people, you know, in my outside circle who think it'€™s a great idea. But none of my friends are into that.

Q: If a man cheats, what should a woman do? - Uinterview

You know, you gotta look at the whole situation. Are you ready to just give it all up because of that? Why did he cheat? What were the circumstances behind it? And no way do I think cheating is acceptable, but I think you have to definitely look at the whole spectrum of what happened maybe go to therapy, maybe talk it out if you want to salvage the relationship and see what happens. So every single circumstance is completely different.