When Jodie Foster accepted her lifetime achievement award at the Golden Globes and officially came out as a lesbian, she dedicated a portion of her speech to her aging mother who is suffering from dementia.

Foster’s mother is the 84-year-old Evelyn “Brandy” Ella Almond. She was married to Lucius Foster with whom she had Jodie along with three other children: Lucinda Foster, Constance Foster and Lucius “Buddy” Foster. Lucius Sr., who is currently serving time behind bars, left Almond and the kids around the time that Foster was born.

While Foster has frequently sung her mother’s praises, her older brother, Buddy, has not been so kind. In his tell-all book, he writes about Almond being hot-tempered, violent and a leech to her children’s earnings in show business. Foster was enraged at the claims her brother made, including one that asserts that they were raised by their lesbian mom and her partner, Aunt Jo. In a rare statement, Foster responded to her brother’s book: “I feel sad for him. Mostly, I feel sad for my 69-year-old mother, who has spent her life struggling to raise four children on her own,” she said. “Buddy has done nothing but break her heart his whole life. That’s a kind of sadness no mother will ever get over.”

In addition to giving her mother credit for encouraging her continued career in acting, Foster also notably made reference to her mother’s dementia in her speech. “Mom, I know you’re inside those blue eyes somewhere and that there are so many things that you won’t understand tonight.,” the actress said. “But this is the only important one to take in: I love you, I love you, I love you. And I hope that if I say this three times, it will magically and perfectly enter into your soul, fill you with grace and the joy of knowing that you did good in this life. You’re a great mom. Please take that with you when you’re finally OK to go.”

Foster also mentioned her mother’s fight with the disease back in 2011. “She’s really a new person, not the mom I grew up with, and I have a real nostalgia for who she was,” she told The National. At that point, Foster’s mother was living near her home in Los Angeles. It is uncertain if Almond is now living with the actress or being taken care of elsewhere.

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