Mad Men’s Jon Hamm says he’s in no rush to get married and have children with his girlfriend, actress and screenwriter, Jennifer Westfeldt, who he has been together since 2007. 

“I don’t have the marriage chip. Neither of us have the greatest examples of marriages in our families,” Hamm tells Parade magazine. “But Jen is the love of my life, and we’ve already been together four times longer than my parents were married.” Hamm says he met Westfeldt at a party, and afterwards helped her rehearse lines for an upcoming audition. “She didn’t get the part, which may be my fault, but she got the guy.”

As for kids, Hamm, who says he leaves his Don Draper character at work, and is “quite dissimilar from him in real life,” isn’t looking to have a little Sally or Bobby anytime soon. “I like kids but I also like the option to close the door. Becoming a parent is a whole other life, and it doesn’t stop. Losing both parents at a young age gave me a sense that you can’t really control life–so you’d better live it while it’s here. I stopped believing in a storybook existence a long time ago.” –ANDREW BANKIN

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