Aisha Tyler has confirmed the rumors that stated that she and her husband Jeff Tietjens are in the process of getting a divorce.

Aisha Tyler, Jeff Tietjens Divorcing

Tyler confronted the rumors about her impending divorce on The Talk Monday. She explained on the show that she and Tietjens had hoped to keep their split private until their divorce was finalized. However, those plans when ruined when the news broke about Tyler’s filing for divorce last week. Tyler explained that though the two had been separated since January 2015, they had continued to make an effort to repair the marriage to no avail.

“That’s a very painful thing to go through and it’s also a really painful thing to go through in public,” Tyler said of the separation and divorce. “I’m sure you can imagine it’s pretty frustrating to have people talking about your private life who don’t know anything about it.”

“My husband and I met when I was a teenager and I’ve been with him for more than half of my adult life. It’s very hard when you love someone very much to also start to realize that maybe you want different things for your lives,” Tyler said, choking up. “I don’t, not in any way see this relationship as a failure. We loved each other passionately and we lived life fully and we’re trying to let each other go in the kindest way we possibly can … that’s what I’m going to say about the relationship and the rest of it is none of your damn business!”

Tyler and Tietjens met in college at Dartmouth and were married in 1994. Though the two had hoped to have children together, they struggled to conceive and opted not to pursue other options.

“The hardest part is I really love my husband – he’s such a good person and he would be such a great father,” Tyler said back in 2011 on The Talk. “But we just decided it wasn’t worth it to go through that and so we decided to stop. It was better to not go through that torture.”